Once upon a time there was a tavern where we used to raise a glass or two…
Once upon a time, as I was standing outside a pub on the quays of the Liffey chatting with two young volunteers about life’s opportunities, an Irish man spoke to us and he gave us a lesson that I’ll never forget. And I am sure the two young friends will never forget it as well.
I don’t remember the name neither the face of that man but I remember what he said. He spoke with tears in his eyes, because of the many beers he had but also because what he said was coming from the deep of his heart; the heart of a man going through hard times, that doesn’t want to see someone else going trough the same.
To make it short and simple he said that if you want to achieve something in your life, the best time to do it is when everything seems to fall apart.
It is only then that you can show to the world that, forgive my French, you’ve got balls and it is only during hard times that you take out the best you have.
It might sound a bit rude but what he was saying is absolutely true.
When is not easy to find a job because of the recession is the right time to think: OK, what am I able to do? Which are my skills? What would I like to be?
You don’t always have to make compromises or submit yourself to stupid standard rules coming from above. You are almost free.
You can try. You’ve got nothing to lose.
If you try you might either fail or succeed.
When you think that in your life something is missing, or even worse, that everything is going in the wrong way, that’s the time to make some changes.
I might turn out well or not, you can always step back or try something else.
The last few months of my life went by quickly as it always happens when you experience a few changes in your life.
I went trough hard times and I had my moments of glory, I tried to settle down then I left again, I found sincere love and friendships, I laughed and I cried like a child, sometimes happy, sometimes sad.
Once again I left everything I knew for something that is becoming part of me.
The unknown or the unpredictable.
Well, in fact I can say now that I know a bit of Ireland after all the time I lived here.
However I came back to Ireland with the dream of doing something unusual for this country and I worked for a month in a Monkey Sanctuary.
In Ireland!
Until the cold winter and the Dublin craic got me here again. Dublin fair city.
I can consider myself happy for a few things I am achieving, or trying to achieve.
I spent days, hours, fixing an old useless PC, bringing it back to life (that’s why I can now write again on my blog). It has been hard and I have been very close to throw it out of the window many times. I was even thinking to make a video for youtube like those people who completely lose it and destroy their office for the happiness of youtuboholics.
But I have a lot of patience and I won.
With some friends we are writing a script for an old fashion “Fotonovela” and since we started I’m enjoying every moment of it. As good almost-Irish-like we take it easy and not to seriously so it might take months before we’ll be able to publish it. But the ideas are there, it’s just a matter of time.
I started to learn Japanese with the help of my friend/flatmate Haruka and according to her I am a good student. Everyone told me it is impossible to learn Japanese but I am stubborn and I believe that nothing is impossible if you really want it. So I study, I watch anime and Kurosawa and I talk to myself in Japanese.
I started once again to host people with Couchsurfing and I met some of the best people ever. This is the prove that in life you always make the best encounters when you less expect it.
I have now some new great friends and I’ve learned a good deal from them despite they are younger than me. That proves that age and wisdom are not necessarily connected.
Thanks to Emilie, one of the latest couchurfers I’ve hosted and one of the most beautiful persons I know, I tried yoga and despite my old knee complains I loved it and I will keep practicing it. I will have a chat with my knee…I am sure he’ll understand!
With Erika, another CS friend, I felt like a tourist guide for a day and I loved it. It’s such a great feeling to rediscover the place where you live trough someone else eyes. And she sang her beautiful songs for us in the living room. Singing your songs in my living room might bring you good luck, that’s what happened with Nathalie.
Then there is the “Little marchand de fruit” Leo’, former CS guest, now neighbor and best friend.
Yesterday I took her (or she took me) and other friends to the Celt because I wanted them to hear from Betty’s beautiful voice the song “Those were the days”.
I heard that song so many times that I should had known the lyrics by heart by now, but I’ve never managed to find out who wrote it and what was the title.
You know…when you sing because you are drunk the day after you also forget things because you were drunk…
Until 3 days ago I google the lyrics I remembered (or so I thought) and I found the song I’ve been looking for during the last 6 years.
Now…the lyrics are a bit nostalgic but what I like of that song is that “those days” can be “these days” meaning that even if time passes by we always must have something to achieve, because either you can get old (and then remember the old times) or you can get old “trying”.
And is only when you try hard that you really live the life.
Like in that song one day you might meet your old friend in a tavern after many years and still have the same dreams, which means you didn’t manage to achieve them.
There are a lot of things going on in the world right now, so many and dramatic events that my life’s little changes are invisible compared to them.
I think that this is for me one of the strangest times since many years for what is going on around, starting from the revolts in Northern Africa to the earthquake and tsunami in Japan with all the consequent risks of a nuclear accident, from the economic recession still far to be over (especially in Ireland) to the disgraceful situation of the Italian politic and their supporters (no offense for real politicians and real people of other countries).
I obviously think about all these things with a feeling of sadness having friends involved in all of it.
My thoughts go often to them and their families, friends, countries and, as I have these feelings, I keep thinking that this are those days and maybe it’s about time to take out the best I have inside and put in practice the lesson that that Irish man gave to me once upon a time.
As I’ve said many times before I don’t want to change the world all at once but I can start with little things and so should everyone.
Like a friend said “The sun woke up early this morning”
And so did I with a different energy.
Yes! I’ve got balls!